Why older men date younger women and younger women date older men
Chris Abraham hosts a discussion on why women date older men. Commenter Teresa says
I'm young and considered gorgeous. The only reason I date older men is because they have a bigger bank accounts! The YOUNG men are the ones we really want because they LOOK better then the old farts. Men are just plain stupid to think were there because of how wonderful they are.
Which really amounts to "we're all prostitutes, we just like to pretend we're not." I don't believe that this is true (which is why I filter women out who expect me to buy the first dinner, all of the drinks, etc) but I can't but acknowledge that it exists.
What's interesting is that this reaction was to a woman writing, of the older men side of the equation:
Men date younger women because they are weak and stupid. They prefer their equals to their superiors, intelectually and emotionally. It has nothing to do with body or commitment issues or any other excuse they want to give. It is sheer weakness.
Which sounds like a spurned first wife to me. I have a lot of thoughts on this issue, but for the moment I'll open the floor to you with one note - I've dated older women and younger women. I won't share my preference just yet, I'm curious to see what you all have to say.
Comments
Badman,
First of all, glad to see you're back. I found your blog in law school and really got into it, and, your thoughts and reasoning, in part, led me to change my approach with the ladies.
The cartoon made me laugh, b/c this was totally the way I used to roll. The only difference is that sometimes, for me, it worked. And I've been able to keep some of those women as friends since.
The only reasons I ever took this approach, though, were twofold;
1) Some of these girls were casually dating other people when I met them, and I don't like openly hit on taken women. Laying down seeds for when they're untaken, however, seemed to be ok. You know, like subliminal programing. This worked about as well as you could imagine, but you have to figure that it doesn't really cost you anything to do, and it wasn't like I was pining for these girls anyway.
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2)It sometimes seemed to me to be a good idea to "screen" the girls. I've had too many experiances where ladies I thought were cool tended to change at some point. Sometimes, by getting to know someone a little better, you got to see the potential downside earlier.
and an extra tidbit -
3) The other reason was that, sometimes, I just thought a certain woman was just "out-of-my-league," which, of course, by thinking that, automatically makes it true.
Sorry for the ramble, as you know, the lawyer don't sleep much in the summertime.
Posted by: JB | June 24, 2007 12:22 PM