Looking for love in all the wrong places, apparently
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Bad Man: my life’s kinda funny. Would you have guessed, in 1997, that this is how it would have turned out?
Old College Buddy: honestly? yeah
Old College Buddy: for you, most definitely
Bad Man: so how do I end this part of my life and find someone to luuuuv
Old College Buddy: end what part? the hooking up part? the school part? what exactly?
Old College Buddy: because they all overlap
Bad Man: the hooking up part, mainly.
Old College Buddy: i’ve been reading your blog pretty religiously since the beginning
Old College Buddy: the common thread for you and hooking up? alcohol and bars.
Old College Buddy: i really haven’t heard of you meeting a woman at a library
Old College Buddy: or a book store
Old College Buddy: or a convention where brilliant people laugh at us intellectual peons
Bad Man: parties
Old College Buddy: you always put yourself in situations where alcohol is the main aspect
Old College Buddy: you don’t do the Jdate thing
Old College Buddy: you don’t get set up on dates because the people you’ve asked to set you up are in the “community”
Old College Buddy: you need to reach out to your more “mainstream” friends to help
Old College Buddy: change the venue
Old College Buddy: it sounds like iyou’ve changed your outlook based upon your blogs
Old College Buddy: but you’re still doing the same thing, going to the same places
Old College Buddy: the community you’re a part of is quite insular
Old College Buddy: and i feel like they all want the best for you. based on their comments
Old College Buddy: yet noone is encouraging you to change your moment to moment, day to day, night to night, behavior
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He makes a good point. Maybe you should listen
I’d agree. Seems like you’re getting a little bit too cozy in this reality you’ve created for yourself. Get out of your comfort zone, do something crazy/you haven’t done for a while. It helps.
Devote a day a week to getting away. I ride a motorbike, go see the hills once a fortnight.
ZenHabits.net might help.
Old College Buddy is wise.
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He is definitely smart, and way right. Booze and bars = non-relationship.
If you want a woman to think relationship, think cheezy, Harry-met-Sally activity. Going to a museum, walk in the park, picnic, hotdogs for lunch, cooking dinner in. She will be wowed by your creativity and your romantic moooves. Srsly. I mean, you can even go to a bar, get trashed, maybe smooch her, get her number, and THEN invite her to any of the above. That would be so stylish I would faint with delight, if it were me.
Maybe this has already occurred to you. Probably I need to read your blog more.
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DUH : P
i’ve met the best ones doing what i love…seeing a band, reading in a cafe, and cycling. with all due respect, you appear to be attracted to outer appearances rather than to souls or a laugh from the heart. i used to only go for ‘hot’ guys…then i wisened up and found out the hot guys were for the most part-only that, hot. not much depth, not much humility, and so on.
you should get to know that cute girl not looking for attention but looking for meaning. you should buy her a cup of coffee instead of a shot of whiskey : )
of course my parents met in a bar and are still married… so who the fuck really knows
Your old college buddy makes a really good point. Smart guy/girl!
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