July is the month of getting everything done
After much back and forth (all of it in my head) and a large number of pins, needles, and other stressful events, Surfette called me today.
What's ironic is that she called at exactly the time my "I should call her to see" formula said to call her. I was going to call her right before I went out, at six here, which would be three there, catching her at... yes, clearly I'd overthought it. But as I picked up the phone to call her and debated doing so, she called me.
And then, and here's what's weird, our conversation was stilted and almost dreamlike. It was like we were two prize fighters, so enraptured with being in the ring with one another that we couldn't even throw a punch. Like, when you have a huge paralytic crush on someone and have a hard time talking to them? Only it was that way for the both of us. She had trouble being witty, I had trouble bantering, and when I got off, the only two things I thought were: wow, I like her and wow, it seems like she rather likes me.
It was very high school. Only with a corporate lawyer and a whatever it is that she does.
I've read a lot of PickUp blogs lately - The Sinns Of Attraction, Immaculate Seduction. Captain Jack - They all seem so formulaic. No room for the magic, no room for life to happen. It's applying Dungeons and Dragons to meeting women. They sell the "solution." Don't get me wrong, I've learned from their ilk quite a bit, they helped me a great deal not only in learning who I am but in the mechanics of meeting people. But what they seem to lack is heart. I'm not saying that each of them don't have it individually, I've met Future of Immaculate Seduction at least, and he seemed to have his head screwed on straight back then. But in their writing. It's very much "I went out and did X move Y move and then rolled a 2d10 and voila, liquid panties.
Don't get me wrong, it's good to know that there are moves out there, or as TaiChi used to call them, Jedi Mind Tricks. And don't get me wrong, I've certainly learned my share and have used them extensively. But that all seems mechanical. The shorthand, the step by step nature of it, it just depresses me. I don't know of a lot of happily married pickup artists. Are the two skillsets, settling down and pickup, antithetical? I'm not sure, but it's cause for rumination.
So. Surfette. I like her. And I'm going to go visit her in LA at the end of the month.
In the meantime, The Brazilian is here for two more weeks before she goes back to Rio for awhile, which means PS1 with her this coming weekend, and perhaps I can get her out to Cooper Hewitt with me. We'll see, as they say, what develops.
Comments
My biggest problem with the blogs you mention is their relentless upselling. "Just got done talking YetAnotherInstructor about our awesome new Liquid Panties mini-course..."
I mean, that's fine and all--they DO have businesses to run, after all--but they aren't particularly good sources of information. (The worst are the so-called podcasts that are just advertisements for their boot camps...forty minutes of listening to a newbie get interviewed by the guy he just gave a grand to talk about what a great time he had.)
Sinn (I think) had a recent post about Agenda Guys, dudes who just want to pick his brains when they hang out. -ronically, all of these sites are Agenda Blogs, pretending to offer advice but more interesting in selling PDFs and training classes.
I liked your comments about not taking the joy out of the process...it put onto words something I've been thinking about lately: will I get so good at this I lose that giddy rush that comes with meeting and attracting someone new? And if so, which one will I choose?
[Or is this just the sort of thing I waste time worrying about when I could be out opening sets? Could be, could be...]
Posted by: Ignatius | July 2, 2007 3:26 AM