Son of a bitch. I had to delete my mt-static folder because it was causing problems and I stupidly didn't back it up so I lost my stylesheet.
This site will remain ugly until one of the following happens:
1) One of you helps me get it on its feet
2) I spend a few hours fixing it
Either way, my apologies for the ugliness.
The party ended, it seemed, as everyone else was wending their way out the door. "You'll be staying the night?" I was asked. So, I did.
Upgraded to MT-4.01
I like.
I have a WP blog on a different subject, and while they're very different, MT 4.01 is WAY kicking MT 3.35's ass. Anyone have any suggestions for what I should do with this place now that I've got 4.01 installed?
MT-Blogroll no longer works, it seems, so my blogroll went away. Anyone have suggestions on that one?
Back to your regularly scheduled programming shortly. A very intense few days over here that I haven't fully processed and thus haven't been able to write out. Culminating in two friends both saying "you look miserable, what's wrong?" And they were right. Mostly, however, because I'd had some things rather pent up that I'd finally dealt with.
More on that later. For the moment, I am pleased with this upgrade, it makes me happy.
I just received word from someone at Skyhorse publishing
Your blog is a fantastic read, and among the greatest sex-related blogs on the web.
Which would be fantastic and make me feel fantastic about this blog except...
well...
that was the only line that seemed genuine, and it only seemed genuine because I'm an egotist. Instead, it was an advertisement asking for me to shill for Girl's new book. Now, I feel like I IM'd with her back in the day, mainly because she's on my IM list, but other than that, she and I haven't really been in the same circles.
I remember seeing Belle's book at B&N not long ago. Make me a little unhappy. Envy, mainly. Also the whole "well, the doors are really off the clubhouse now" moment, but then, that's the same thing that happened to the pickup community when "The Game" came out.
I suppose it means that perhaps I've arrived that I've been asked to mention her book? I have no idea. I wonder if the author of the email actually read this blog or just had some spambot slurp the links from, say, NLP or some other site that links to me and put it that way.
So - here's the way it's going to go down. If you're the author of that email, or Girl herself (whom I have nothing against except minor annoyance at the potential spamming) - and you see this message, drop me a comment or an email. If I see either of those things, I'll be happy to link to your book on amazon, read it, and even review it, as the email won't be spam.
I'll be happy to take a review copy, too, rather than just an email.
If I don't hear from either of you, I'll just assume it's spam and suggest you engage the services of a branding and marketing consultant next time before you spam bloggers.
So. Gauntlet. Floor. Collision. Let's see what develops.
To the rest of you - anyone else get the email?
UPDATE: I reread the email and it asked whether I'd like a free sample. I would. This may be genuine yet. Gives some hope to me.
UPDATE 2: I emailed the offeror at Skyhorse and will see what turns back.
UPDATE 3: I heard back - don't mean to get anyone's blood pressure up - see the comments for both Girl and her marketer's response. Human, not bot. I'm going to get a copy of the book and will review it here. To Girl, and everyone else involved - even if it's a mass mail (and from what Lex says it seems to be) I have no problem with a person looking at my site and sending me the same email he sent someone else. For the record - I take no issue whatsoever with Girl or Erikk, and certainly hope I haven't raised anyone's blood pressure with this post. All's fair in love and book sales.
I wouldn't call lately a dry spell, but by no means have I been getting wet and wild lately either.
Want to know why I don't date in New York?
This, from The Jaguar:
thanks. it's fun. i am kind of slowing down now. dating seriously as opposed to the thought of a free dinnerFor years I've gotten grief over my "no dinner date first dates" policy. And voila - that's why.
I also haven't been dating at all, really. In fact, I've turned down more than I've taken home lately. I'm a little overwhelmed in my life right now, and I haven't been playing much of anything, really.
Saw Lex for his birthday and I couldn't even hang I'm so not in it. Also, it was the day after The New Yorker picked up her stuff. Perhaps now is the grieving time that I skipped when we broke up in April. Or maybe it's only been a week or two since I last hooked up with someone and I should shut up. Yeah, that's probably it.
Go ahead. Delurk. Say hello. I've noticed not so many comments, but a steady stream of hits from around the world and I would like to hear from you.
The New Yorker just came over to pick up the remainder of her stuff. We had a bittersweet goodbye. I had a bottle of champagne and she had three glasses. But rather than getting me drunk to take advantage, it appears she got me drunk to try to get me to talk about our relationship.
And she just left.
It's not quite midnight on a Friday night.
I'm going out now. I assume nothing will happen tonight, but that was a mindfuck of a three hours. It wasn't a mistake, I do love her, but oy the intensity.
UPDATE: not a total loss evening, she brought me back my rope and nipple clips. (Unused, I might add...)
I've now watched all five seasons of Angel. I still prefer Buffy, but respect where respect is due, Angel was good. And the theme song is fucking haunting.
There. I said it. I will turn in my keys to the cool kids club now, and accept that I'm a big nerd.
"What did you think of the girl I was here with on Friday" I asked the bartender "am I punching below my weight?"
He thought back. "No, thing about her was, she was really engaging. I just met her and she was great and fun and, no. I liked her."
"Really?"
"I've seen you come in to my bars for 8 years now and you've always, always, had beautiful women with you."
"I've had my share of not-so-cute girls."
"I don't remember them."
Which was interesting. I don't have a lot of insight into this one. It's interesting what other people remember vs. what we see about ourselves in our own heads.
Chet's been after me for some time for "punching below my weight" - going for women that are easier because they're less attractive and what have you. I'm not sure he's wrong, per se, but I don't know what my weight class is. I'm not OCD about meeting the "hottest" girl I can find - and actually had a conversation with the girl on Friday night about that. Since beauty is a something that you can't adjust, I prefer a woman who is not ugly but has a fantastic personality over someone prettier with a dull personality. That's just me, though, and in talking to Moxie the other day, she pointed out that I am the exception, not the rule.
Lately I've been so wrapped in my head that I've been all shy and withering flower-y. Ridiculous. I'm in the middle of a strange crisis of confidence these days, having completely changed my life from that of lawyer-guy to student who lawyers in his free time. Where once I had structure and social acceptance and a decent bank account, now I'm in a whole new atmosphere/lifestyle. The change is a bit daunting. Being back in school is throwing me back to my college days in my head, when I was shy. I then remember who I am and get over it, but it's amazing the sort of anchors I have built around being a student.
By the same token, I'm not sure why I'm feeling shy or what this really is. Since The New Yorker, there have been four other women and I really haven't been trying. July4, Surfette, the one night stand at my reunion, and the very persistent neighbor. I've also hooked up with a handful more. And yet, when I go out, I look around and think that all the women in the room want to be with everyone other than me. It's like it's genetic or something.
IF YOU have ever sat alone in a bar, depressed by how good-looking everybody else seems to be, take comfort—it may be evolution playing a trick on you. A study just published in Evolution and Human Behavior by Sarah Hill, a psychologist at the University of Texas, Austin, shows that people of both sexes reckon the sexual competition they face is stronger than it really is. She thinks that is useful: it makes people try harder to attract or keep a mate.(VIA: Sexoteric)
In other news, this post made me like Future a lot. I've been on the periphery of the "community" for awhile now, and I have to give Future a lot of respect. So - as my people say - "props, Future." (Did I bastardize the language enough for you?)
In still other news - with Movable Type and Wordpress each coming out with new versions, I think it's time to update this old rig. Two questions - this is currently an MT 3.35 rig and I've got a Wordpress rig elsewhere for a business that I work with that I like, so I've liked both of them.
My question is - which to use? Pros? Cons? Suggestions? Help?