Rob commented over in the post before this one about my "jedi powers" and getting a "blowjob on command."
Before I go (excuse the pun) tooting my own horn, a few bits of background.
I was talking to Dr. Vital about this last night after the blowjob girl left. I've been getting picked up, you see, not picking girls up. I've got a thing about me that makes me look at once non-threatening and charming, while overtly sexual. I've cultivated it over the years. Basically put - I've got a look.
I've just got a quiet confidence about me that if I meet a girl and I like her, I'm going to fuck her, and if it's not that night, it's going to be the night after or the night after that. Unless she's a virgin.
But Dr. Vital made an important point over IM. He's been around since right before the Cuban, he's the one who introduced me, during a rooftop party, to the whole idea that SS was even out there.
If you look in the sidebar, you'll see two things - the first is the GFTOW counter, currently at five. This is good, but it reflects five women, the Jaguar, an ex, Southern Belle, the Buffalonian, and another woman who I haven't nicknamed, all of whom picked me. Yes, I flirted with them. Yes, I called them on their shit and set up a frame where it looked like they were picking me up and asking me on a date.
But they all picked me. Which means, in layman's terms, that i've been relying, at least in part, on my looks.
Which is a bad thing, because looks fade. And what's interesting is that I'm still afraid to approach women. Can you imagine?
Well, I'm not sure I'm afraid, but I haven't done so.
I can get laid three times in a row, capped on either side by blowjobs, each on successive days, each by a different woman. And I'm still intimidated to walk up to a random girl and just say hi.
I can go from meeting to doggie dinner bowl in an hour, to sex in three to four hours, and I can't say hi to strangers. I can flirt with the help (waitresses, sales girls, whatever) but I can't walk up to a girl on the street.
Since that's my weakness (and it served me really badly when I saw an ultra-HB on the street walking a totally cute dog, making eye contact and giving IOIs yesterday at around seven when I was bored and wanted her number) I need to, and have promised Dr. Vital that I would, work on it. That's why under the GFTOW thing there is the "Cold Approach" section.
I may have to move this off of blogger and onto Typepad or something, so I can have categories, to describe the approaches, the dates, the lays, what have you.
Now, my game is tight for two reasons, one of which you can replicate, one you can't.
The replicable one is that I'm confident as hell. Saturday night saw me in the ladies room at this girl's office, lifting her up bodily and putting her on the sink and making out with her there. Because I knew she wanted it, and I was willing to risk getting smacked. After she started grinding with me and demanded we go back to my place, it became obvious it was the right choice.
The other half is my looks.
I'm kinda preppy/kinda cool. I've been described as having the face of an angel, specifically, looking a lot like the angel in Caravaggio's paintings, or like his Cupid. Well, my face does. (Warning that picture is a naked picture of a guy. But it's art, so you know, deal with it.)
I've got the face of an angel, but the desires and mouth of a devil. That's not original, and that's what one of my friends in college used to say. So if my results aren't replicable, it may be that.
All I know is that the more of a player I am, the more I get laid, the more I make clear to women and the universe that I'm a player, the more women smell something on me and want a piece of the action. The more relaxed I get with myself, the more comfortable I get, the better I do and the more I work out the more comfortable I am with my body and the stronger I am, and women seem to react well to the confidence and comfort, not the big bulky body. I don't have a big bulky body. I'm 6'0 and 145lbs. Almost all muscle, but I'm hairy, and kinda scrawny. But I'm confident as can be. And that is what seems to make all the difference.
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